29 Jan Each child is unique
‘Before you were born I set you apart.’
Jeremiah 1:5 NIV (2011 Edition)
Do babies come into the world with their own unique personality, or is it that each child is a blank sheet on which experience will write? In the past, psychologist believed newborns had no temperamental or emotional characteristics upon arrival from the womb at birth. Their little personalities were supposedly formed entirely by the experiences that came their way in ensuing years. But most parents knew better. Every mother of two or more children was convinced that each of her infants had a different personality and character; a different feel from the very first time they were held.
In 2008, I was carrying twins, in the womb, they were known as twin A and twin B. Up until their birth, each twin had set ways and patterns. When they were brought out, one after the other, I smiled a knowing smile, there you are, twin A, my calm and chilled Prince. Ahhh, Here comes twin B, my energetic, no nonsense Princess. Their characters my intertwine, but from the day they were formed in my belly, I have only known them exactly as they are.
Now, years of research has shown authorities in child development that those mothers have always been right. An important study showed nine characteristics that varied in babies – such as moodiness, level of activity, and responsiveness. It was also found that the differences from child to child tended to persist into later life. Indeed, babies do differ in infinite ways that define our humanness and our individuality. If God could uniquely design every snowflake that falls, and if every grain of sand at the seashore is unique, it makes no sense to suppose that children are products stamped out by the same giant cookie cutter. There’s no denying the importance of environment and human experience in shaping who we are and how we think. But there can be no doubt that each person on earth is a one-of-a-kind creation from the earliest moments of life. As God told Jeremiah: ‘Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.’ You need to know that about your children.
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