08 Jan Diary of a Homemaker – Fran Asemota
Diary of a Homemaker:
I recently felt led to share what goes on on a daily basis in my home. I usually get asked, “what do you do, Now that you’re a Lady of leisure?”. “You have time” “why are you always tired when you do nothing but ‘chill’ all day”
Here’s the thing: not only is this insensitive, it’s also highly disrespectful and telling of your own character or lack thereof.
What you do daily is not more or less fulfilling than what I do, thank you very much.
Guarding and guiding the home entails more than meets the eye, but sadly our role usually goes in appreciated.
Let me give you a glimpse into my day as a homemaker, wife and mother of 3 children.
N.b I’m not an overtly structured person, but I do have OCD, so what empowers me is routine… I go about my routines and ensure I accomplish any task I set for the day.
Early Morning, I start my day with spending time with God, reading and meditating on the word, I then check on my kids, ( as they’re always arguing over something or other) and I help get them ready for school. The baby does a fab job doing this, but these kids test one’s patience.
I take them to school most mornings, (or their dad does) just to bond and help them start their day right… we review their value systems, talk over the issues they’re having in school, and with other people: adults and kids alike.
After the school runs, I try to excersise at home daily with my personal trainer. On days he’s not available, I begrudgingly go for a walk with my hubby ( the walk is the part that begrudges me. I mean, why can’t I just be skinny?). We also make time to bond and catch up on the day’s’ activities….. Sort of check in with each other, so we don’t get lost in the sauce. Communication is key.
Most mornings, I’m biblically required to fulfil some wifely duties, which guarantees his day works out great and my every wish is granted (wisdom is profitable to direct).
My routine also allows me to start each morning with making sure the house is aired out, curtains drawn, beds made, dirty clothes put away, and my Flowers and plants watered. This sounds mundane, but as a Homemaker with OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) , I feel the need to research ways in which my home can work more efficiently. I fancy myself a lifehacker and repurposer. If there’s a problem, I turn to home remedies and plants to fix them. This is after praying to God first, of course.
Did you know that there’s a plant called Sansevieria trifasciata? It is a species of flowering plant in the family Asparagaceae, native to tropical West Africa from Nigeria east to the Congo.
It is also known as Mother-in-Law’s Tongue, also known as “the bedroom plant.” While most plants take away oxygen at night, this one gives off oxygen at night. The plant also filters formaldehyde, trichloroethylene, xylene, toluene, and benzene from the air. Basically, it removes toxins from the air and bad vibes from the atmosphere.
During the mid-morning I spend time making the day’s meals and working on my website and social media. I use my children’s absence from home as an opportunity to work. I write my blog posts, schedule my social media posts, spend time taking pictures and editing them also for my blog/ posts. I work on the day’s plans with my assistant, who efficiently helps me run my other business, The Mustard Seed NG (@themustardseedng).
I read books and sometimes take meetings or I hangout with friends. Making time for friends and friendships is a big part of who I am as a person. I never want to be too busy to work on my relationships.
I pick up the kids from school, we have lunch and I supervise their home work, not often though, as I hate homework and wonder why I pay so much to do all that work for 3 children. Sheesh.
I let them run off to their various activities and I start the meal prep for the night and the next day and spend the next hour and a half cooking and spending more time with my children.
We eat dinner at 6:00 pm each evening. After enjoying dinner together as a family, we spend time as a family until bedtime. My kids have a few bedtime duties and then they go to their room and we have our family prayers, which is usually led by my youngest and finished by my oldest. I use this prayer time to gauge their spirituality and their mindset. The growth of a child should never be measured in inches or in the classroom alone, but also by the depth of their character and their minds as well.
After everyone is in bed, I spend about 20 minutes tidying up and picking up leftovers in the main living areas of our home. ( I have OCD and can never stop doing this). This is a routine I repeat in exactly the same order and to the same standard every evening. I do this and it makes me feel successful as a homemaker to go to bed with a tidy home..
At this point, I often either go to bed, spend time to catch up on my favourite tv series, read a book or do a bunch of other random things..
Women are such busy forces of nature, often doing all these small jobs that no one really notices unless they aren’t done….
Are you homemaker? Share how your days’ routines usually play out……
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